Do you think long distance relationships can really work?

And when I mean by long distance, I mean more that a few hours drive between them and at least 3 months of being apart continuously.

I Personally think that they wouldn't work very well, however I put I am not sure because it is working for two people I know.

I think it all depends on the two people.

My ex and I lasted for just over a year or so, after he moved. Twelve hour drive, then an hour long ferry ride, and then another 30 minutes driving.

i've been in a few.

obviously i'm not in it anymore, so it really didn't work out that well.
one relationship was pretty serious, we really cared for each other.. but after a while it just got really hard. he lived in IN, i live in LA. so.. we just decided to be friends.

It depends. Sometimes they do sometimes they dont.

From personal experiences, and experiences from others. No, I don't think they are efficient. Now, of course there are cases where it does.

Depends how far away the 2 people are. If its like.. They only see each other once a week, it can work out :) Any longer.. I dont see it working.

Can they really work?
Yes.

Do I recommend it?
No.


I don't have to explain myself for my answers considering most of ya'll already explained it.

It's hard to say if they will or won't work. Can they work? Yes. Are they recommended? Yes.


I'll tell you from my experiences, that out of all my friends the only one thats currently doing alright for herself is someone who started off in an online relationship for a year.

Basically, I have one friend pregnant and the dads not interested, most of my other friends are single and live at home, and the last remaining ones are in and out of relationships.

The friend who found love online is with her boyfriend currently, living together and on a pretty big wage.



So yeah, they can work. But it depends on the people and how much effort you put in to them. I'm a great beliver you can find love anywhere with anyone (Within reason.)

I do believe that they can work. I have done it.
~Sariki

I've been in one for over a year now, so it works for me :) We met online, got to know each other, and met this past summer irl for the first time (he lives in the Netherlands, I live in the US). But we're making it work, I guess it really just depends on the people.

I'm not sure. They can work out but you're not sure if the girl is cheating the guy and the other way around.

I was in two before. They both lasted almost a year. But I've learned my lesson and I am not going to be in one again. Right now I'm going on a date from someone that just lives in the next city from me which is like ten or fifteen minutes away.

I don't recommend long distance relationships because you don't know if the other person is cheating on you while you could be doing nothing wrong. Plus you just can't last very long without meeting them physically and being around them where you could have more fun and excitement for the relationship.

But it does not mean that you can't find love at a far distance away.

From personal experience, no. It really starts to play with your head after a while.

I have had many online relationships. They can work, but it matters on how much effort you want to put in the relationship. Sometimes it is just alot of stress. It is really nice though to have someone who cares. My longest online relationship lasted one year and we both still like eachother to a point, but we won't date because we both have someone else and both in real life. Sometimes just being friends online and saying you love them isn't bad... Because you can truly fall in love online but you can't really date them until well... you can go out on a date with them.

So far it's working for me. I love her with all my heart. So I suppose it can work, if you are both willing to make it work.

I voted yes on this.

I have had friends who met some one on the internet before and the relationship has worked. They've met a few times and all and some of my older friends have even gone far enough to move to were the other person is. Some of the relationships did work and some didn't.

I dont know. Maybe.

It CAN work. It depends on the two people. How much they care and how willing they are in making it work out. Distance can be a factor too. It just all depends? XD Still I believe it can. Heck, if you care about someone enough, distance shouldn't matter.

i don' want to offend anyone or something but i personally don't think it can work. my first gf lived in Maryland, i lived in virginia, we chatted on AIM all the time, but it jsut didn't work out. There are times when you just need someone to be there, to hold, and you can't do that with long distance relationships.

I agree with you. And besides if you are not together you cant be sure that the other person can stay faithful (to you) if you arent there to have an eye on your gf/bf.

no not really long distance relationships can only last for so long until you just loose interest in the person lol

No I personally think it would. One I been in many and two you dont see them nor touch.

I mean for me I didnt lose interest in the guys but I learned that I will never be able to see them.

Stop lying to yourself if you think that there is a possilbilty that you guys will meet. Not true ever.

It depends on the person, if that person is really strong minded then it would, but most people aren't.

So it wont work out.

As long as you are able to talk often (Internet, phone ect.) then it can work out, and regardless of ANY type of relationship, the relationship itself will survive or fail depending on the people in it and if they truly care for each other. It has little to do with where you're at, it all falls down on where your heart is at.

doesnt work out in the end ......

I think any kind of relationship can work, it just depends on the people.

I say no :/
But thats just my opinion :)

The only reason why it wouldn't work is because the people in the relationship is not reaaly in love. They only want sex. If you're truly in love, then how far away should not be able to break what is a truly loving relationship. I believe the people who don't think long distance relationships can work are close minded. I speak as a person who has a long distance relationship and has had one going well for 2 years because unlike so many people in the world today, I'm not focused on sex, I'm focused on love.

I would have to agree with Luffy. The relationship is only as strong as the people in it. If they make a true effort to staying together, then it can most definitely make it work. I really don't think distance can cause someone's love to fade if they are truly in love with the person in the first place.

i actually realized it can.. if the people care enough about each other.

Agreed. Sex means nothing and if you think that physical contact means love, then you are clearly blind. Now don't get me wrong, physical contact means more than just the naughty stuff such as hugging, kissing, holding hands, but those are only the outward signs of love and/or limerance. Love means a heck of a lot more than the romantic stuff, it's sort of like a frienship, only stronger and more binding.

Its hard to have a relationship with somebody in along distance because you have no time to each other and it wont work!

Yup, they can work. If your willing to see that distance isn't important, and place value in the relationship. Me and my partner live in opposite directions of London and we have had no problem meeting over the years. He lives on the outskirts of the North and I live on the outskirts of the South.

That's what it's really about. If your willing to see that, and want to genuinely spend time with another person, than you'd find that distance is the least of your worries.

Long distance can work, my uncle married a woman from thailand, guess how they met :P
It would work if the two wants it to work bad enough, and if they don't want it bad enough then it's not love and will go to ****.

Falling in love with someone who you will never meet? Is that more interesting then loving someone who you can see and spend time with them.

It's up to a person. But online relationships. YOu can hid so many things away from the person. Secrets that you want no one else to know. But what happened if you saw each other and he/she didnt like they way it was. Of course words can be mere lies.

What is the thrill in dating someone online. What is the outcome of it?
What do you achieve? A love, but just very far away. Someone who you can never touch and see. Hold and hug. Can you people be very happy with that. You should you tell yourself now that it's not worth it.

Everyday you miss them more and more and wish that you could spend time with them. Everyday all you do it think about them, knowning that you can't spend time with them. Everyday you know that you, yourself is dying slowly because you know you can never see them.

Does it make you happy that you have someone to love, but does it hurt knowning that you will never see them.

Can you live like this?

There's nothing that say that you can never meet that person. If you really like someone then the distance shouldn't matter.

You can hide a lot from people close too.

Then you move on.

100 years ago a long distance relationship might be hard, but it's not anymore. You can travel to the other side of the Planet in less than 24 hours.

Sounds exactly like when I had a chrush on this guy when I was 10, although we wnet in the same class :XD:

It's the 21st century you don't need to live like that, because there is ways to meet the person, unless they moved to Mars.

What is the point of dating online? What is the fun in it?

wow.

take the words out of my mouth why don't you, lol.

What is the point in you?