Others Problems

Okay, I have a friend who recently has had troubles with stuff. He keeps telling me about this and says a lot of things the same where we end up talking for about 15 minutes. He tells me these things to get me to help him out. I mean, I do like to help him but some things he has told me make me feel like I dont want to help. What should I do or how could I tell him?

Has anyone elses problems ever affected you in any way?

If I were you, I would try to help. It's always good to help out a friend. If it's becoming annoying, then just ... tell him nicely to not ask too much from you. I'm not sure if that's the best idea though ...

I have a friend who ask for a lot of help, mainly with school stuff, and talks about his problems, but he doesn't ask for help with his personal problems.

I would also try to help. However, if helping you begins to effect you emotionally or mentally, I would ask for help from a counselor or adult friend.

Yeah, my advice is to help him out to the best of your ability. If it becomes overwhelming for you, tell him, "I really don't feel like I can help you out. I think we should talk to someone else." If he says yes, then go tell someone. If he says no, let it go. If it's serious though (violence, drugs, alcohol, abuse) then you need to go to a counselor immediately, whether he wants you to or not.

Your question is too abstract for me to give a real answer. Generally, I would say to help him out, but there are exceptions. I don't know what kind of "help" he's talking about. I'm not saying you should tell us (it's your personal problem, and you don't have to share it with us), but I cannot give any absolute advices.

the simpliest answer is help him

If for some reason you can't help him yourself, take him to somewho/tell someone who you think can.

Though this largely depends on the problem itself and how 'personal' the nature of the said problem is.

You cannot help a person who doesn't want help and you cannot help a person if you cannot help your problems.

I mean eveyone here is asking you to help him. I mean do you really want to help him. I think if you cannot handle it don't help him. I mean of course he sure have other friends to help him. And if you don't want to help him, it will not be the end of the world. Or maybe he just needs someone to talk to, but not help him. Does he really act like he needs helping or just someone to talk to so it will get out of hie system. I mean you aren't a bad person if you don't want to help him.

I been helping people wayyy to long and yes I grow tired of it. And now a days, I'd tell people to take a hike or write their problems in a online blog. Yes I am mean, but I stopped because I cannot someone who doesnt want to be helped and I cannot help someone if I cannot help myself first.

This is really up to you. If you want to help him or not. Someone people can handle the pressure of helping and some don't. We aren't going to hate you just because you aren't helping one single person who doesn't matter in the world.

If he isn't showing signs of suicidal then it's all okay.