So, erm, I have a problem...


Basically, I'm bisexual and had a girlfriend online for two years. We've only met once, and in the time of being together I've cheated quite a few times [only kissing though.] She knows about this, so it means she's not that trusting and brings it up in every argument we have.

Anyways, she's from another country which is why we don't see each other. But, she's coming here for university [mostly to be with me.] However, the university she's going too is still like, four hours a way from where I am.

So, I was in a dilema and started thinking about the future. She's coming this year, and stays in university for about three years, standard. Which means I'll see her once a month if I have the money.

I started to think about it and realized I wanted something more real. I don't think I'd cope for a further three years on just seeing her once a month, if that, and still wouldn't see it as anything proper.

So, I told her I needed a break.

In that time I found someone irl and we've been having sex for the past three weeks. She's a great girl and she's we've discussed us becoming serious; if I do become serious, that means I have to tell the girlfriend in another country that we're completely over. The girlfriend from another country does want me back, quite badly.

She is pissed off with me about the break, considering her coming over here this year. But I still told her whatever happens I'll be her friend and see her relentless.




I'm seriously in a dilema and have no idea what to do. Do I stick with the girl I've had two years and try to make it work? Or move on to someone who's closer and I've experienced things with.

I'm so confused. Their both great girls, but different. The one irl has a lot more in common with me, but because I've not known her long I'm unsure if it'll be long term. I know with the girl from another country if I did stay with her and put up with the distance, we'd be together a while.

I'm 21, so I'm getting on to be pissed about and I'm not sure if I want to wait three years to be with someone I'll see every day.

Can anyone help me? =/

Well i say you should stick with the girl who doesnt liv far away. It wont be long distance and since you cheated i am guessing you like her more

It's not that I like her more, lol. It's just distance and I'm unsure whether the new thing will last.

Well i see, you cheated because with the girl that lives far away, with her it gets boring sometimes beause you cant do much since you guys live far away and you know what i mean by much. Anyway if you really like her that you guys should come up with a plan to move closer to each other so you wouldnt have to cheat

Yeah, exactly. I was sick of having no one there to connect with physically, which was/is the main problem.

And, I'm at college down here and she's at uni, so it's kind've hard. Plus, I live with my parents lol. So it's either, put up with the once a month thing or not even that, OR break it off and find someone closer.

Well seeing that does she live with her parents also, if not and if she really likes you she should move down here

Do what feel is right.. If you dont know it's right? Then how do you what is right if you never took that step?

Either way, no matter what one person is going to get hurt. It's up to you to choose who is and who is not. And who will move on and change their plan in life. If you wanted more, go for more. But in the long run, how many of them will still stick by your side like they do now?