Do you think spanking a child is wrong? Is it equivalent to child abuse?

I personally don't believe in spanking a child, but I can see why it's there and it seems like it works for a lot of parents. Parents are often told their wrong because they spank their children but if that method works then why change it? A simple tap on the arm doesn't ruin a child's life, IMO. Maybe if I got more spankings I'd be less undisciplined. XD

I been beat down and yelled at and all the horrible things that deals with hitting and such. Been through even worser, but that is something else >.>

Right now. I get scared when people yell and b**ch. I get really nervous. And sometimes I wish it could just stop.

Doing something wrong.... it scares me what people are going to say. I'm not a perfectionist or anything. I don't like making people mad..

Well there's a difference between a spanking and a beating...beatings should never happen. x_x; Sorry that happened to you.

Because i can't really remember my psychology lessons too well, i'm just goign go on whats in my head

Beating and or spanking the child is actually the worst thing you can do. When you hit a child, and the more you hit, you become a figure of fear and all things associated with that current moment also become a "figure of fear" In other words hitting kids tends to f**k them up psychologically. Not always really bad, but sometimes.

Your method may produce results but as the child grows older and stronger your method grows more ineffective. They learn that the way to deal with anger and frustration is to lash out at others. Sometimes it may be thoughts that wander in their head, and for others it's in their subconcious(sp? lulz) thoughts.

I forgot the "pro" way to approach this. Maybe i should go dig in my notes.

I don't like the idea of people hitting their children, but very badly behaved children do need some form of strong discipline. When I was a child there were a few times when I got a slap on the arm fron my dad, but it ended up upsetting him more than me!

Morendo: Yeah I read up on that a long time ago. Which is why I'd be afraid to do that if I had a kid.

C.Cat: I have um very..um misbehaved nieces and even if I punish them I don't enjoy doing it, which is why I rarely give them a tap on the arm.

I do not think people should spank their children. My parents spanked me as a child, and all it ended up doing was making me afraid of them, whenever they were mad. My daughter has never been spanked, and never will be. And every time someone tells her that they will spank her if she doesn't listen, they get a lecture from me.

There are plenty of other ways to handle a child when they are not behaving.

is spanking wrong?
no.

beating is wrong. kids do need disciplining and i think a bit of good behavior may come from fear. fear that they will disappoint their parents or get a spanking when they do something wrong. all these children now adays that get told 'ok dont do it again' ....and theyre told it numerous times.. it's stupid. i dunno. i think it's ok to spank or slap but don't beat someone. and only do it when they really do something wrong.

You want to put a bit of fear into a child.

I remember getting slapped when I was wee.
My mum told me not to open a cupboard as it had all the bleaches in it.
But I did. So she slapped me.

I never opened it again. I was scared that I would get slapped again.

Getting slapped was less worse than mucking about with bleaches.


So yeah, slappings good. Its the only thing that can discipline this generation of wild children.

I admit, the odd slap is alright on the hand. But no where it can damage them properly [such as the head/ect.] And only light taps, nothing that leave a mark. There's no need for that.

Although, if I were to have a child it'd have things taken a way from it or left to play in a corner rather than anything physical. I wouldn't want my child hitting me if i did anything wrong, so I wouldn't expect the same from myself.