I was together with a girl for a few months (October 20 '07 - March 1 '08). Simply because soon after I confessed to her that my love to her wasn't ever true and only dated her due to pity. But what i can't picture is her still wanting to talk to me and s**t after all that happened...I have no desire to be with her again because at heart I realized she was ugly and a little disappointing. Plus, she's the pushy AND stalker type and won't leave me alone - I've asked her 15 times to do so and she refuses to listen. She still talks to me because she still thinks that we're friends and we're far from it . . . besides I won't even remember her in the years to come anyway. So I don't understand who she thinks she is. She has no reason to talk to me (whether it be in a public place, on the phone, or online) at all, and yet she still does. I tend to ignore her and then comes the annoyance of constant continuous "Are you there, hun?" or something along those lines. I can't stand it. There's no way for her to leave me alone. What should I do? And even if i try to do something that she doesn't like or that she doesnt approve of, she STILL won't hate me. I'm about ready to say, "Move on and forget about me like you will someday soon anyway" to her . . . but I can't. I mean, I want her to stop annoying me forever. But I don't want to tell her to do that in what may seem to be a hurtful way. Oh yeah! And here's some crazy s**t. We went and did our normal hangout routine while we were still dating. It was New Years Eve, and she came right out and said she wants to marry me and have kids.. I'm like not gonna happen!
I guess that was the big turnoff that ended the relationship, but still . . . I dont know whats her deal.

Uhh since I'm a girl I have to ask, are you an idiot?
Seriously you don't treat girls like that. -.-

If you wanna get rid of her, you gonna have to tell her straight to her face what you think, sure she will probably hate you for it. But still if it was me I'd rather want the truth.
If she still won't leave you alone, then suck it up and start ignoring. Ignoring someone for a few months might do the trick.

Ohh and by telling it straight to her face I mean tell her nicely but still in a no white lie kinda way, if you get what I mean.

Another thing, DON'T GO OUT WITH SOMEONE OUT OF PITY!

It wasn't out of pity at first, we both had the same feelings for each other..and January is when it all started hurting and to me seemed like nothing had changed at all. THEN afterwards when my feelings towards her changed, that's when the pity occurred.

Nothing changed at all? Have you even done anything to change it. and why would you want to change it. When you get into a relationship you love one another for themselves not wanting to change someone to who you like. Of course I thought you were better then this.. dmitry. I am for sure it wasnt out of pity. You just didnt want to her hurt, but in the long run she is still thinking and nailing you down. Your just a nail she is still the hammer. Of course you didnt want to her hurt so you acted like you still liked her. Why? You cannot make everyone happy. Even so you knew that your feeling for her was dead and why did you even still go out to her to the point where she is like so love with you now?

The thing is that never dare to change a person whatsoever and dont think things are going to change just because you guys are going out. If you want soemone to change for you, you change yourself. You cannot change someone if you cannot change yourself and have you even bare to change the relationship and why would you? She wasnt enough for you or you wanted more. From her type she'll take anything in, since she tok you in. You should be grateful at least that someone returned their feelings towards you and here I hear you complaining about it?

I mean come on... just tell her instead of ignoring her. Tell her straight up that you want nothing more to do with her and that she is nothing to you now. tell someone to move on and forget isn't going to cut it since I think now that she is thick headed.

Come on you can do better. and hopefully when you do shut her out of your life. Dont regret it. =]